Friday, May 25, 2018

To Tell the Truth

Parents begin telling their children facts from the moment the child is born. Facts such as "I love you" and "you're the sweetest baby in the whole world" to "it'll be okay" and "Mommy's right here".  Truth is reassuring.

As they get older, you still tell truth, but sometimes you tell them things that they don't like as well such as, "No, you can't have that" and "Yes, you will go to bed now".

Then your children get older yet and you can live by the old adage that the truth hurts. Because it sometimes does. Truths such as, "It's not all about you", and "yes, you do have to be nice to them".

Most of these moments of truth come from questions the children ask such as, "Why?", or circumstances that they struggle with.

By the time your children are adults, you would think the situation would be different, but sometimes you still find yourself having to impart moments of truth to your offspring. The questions children ask at a young age are usually born out of innocence and naivete. Adult children, however, usually ask questions because they are challenging your judgment or your choices in life. At those moments, the truth you speak is your best defense. It's also the best weapon  tool for stopping these argumentative questions in their tracks. These moments of truth could be something along the lines of the following:

When you have unknowingly dropped a rule or guideline from one child to the next, you might hear, "That was never allowed when I was his age". The truth that protects you would be:  "You were our first child so we made all our mistakes on you."

Follow that statement with this truth to head off any complaints:  "If you have a problem with that, take it up with God. He's the One who made you the oldest. Apparently He felt you could handle it."

A similar problem could surface if one child complains: "You never let me do that".  Your answer should be, "Obviously we like him better than we did you." While not strictly true, it does divert the complainer. After all, they're not looking for you reasoning. They simply want to complain about FairPlay.

You may some day have a situation where one of your children is preparing pictures for a display on their graduation table. By the time you had this sixth child, you were often too busy living life to have time to capture it in photos. Your failure may be pointed out when the graduating child asks, "Why don't I have any pictures between the time I was ten and the time I was fifteen?" Rather than own up to your mistakes, you could answer, "I'm not going to lie to you. You hit an ugly phase."

It may not help the child's psyche, but it will absolve you of guilt.

Got any "truths" you've had to share with your children?

Thursday, May 24, 2018

Happy Thoughts Thursdays

So you've made it through half the week, but it's still not Friday yet. Sometimes by Thursday you need a little lift to make it to the weekend.

Our solution? Happy Thought Thursday. On Tuesdays you can drop a pet peeve or an irritation. On Thursdays, give us a praise, a thankfulness, or something that just makes you happy. Your contributions on Thursday can be deep and spiritual, such as thankfulness for your salvation, or as shallow as a cup of coffee or a good hair day.  Here are our happy thoughts for this week:

Stephanie: sweet friends who text you just to check on you to tell you they're praying for you. 

Kylee: I'm not one to brag but I just changed our toilet seat for a new one!

Jill: I spoke at a Mother Daughter Banquet last week and the ladies gave me a thirty-one bag filled with stuff from Pampered Chef, Norwex, Lipsense, Mary Kay, and Plunder Jewelry!

So what about you? What makes you happy today?

Wednesday, May 23, 2018

One of Many Firsts

For as long as I can remember I have had long hair. I know of two times in my life that I have had my hair shoulder length or shorter, once in 4th grade and the other just last year. I have always favored long hair and I think my oldest has taken to that as well. She loves her long hair. She always tells me she wants her hair as long as Rapunzel’s. I have asked her here and there if she is ready to get her first haircut and she always tells me no because she is scared. It was long over due for a cut so I told her the only way she could have “Rapunzel” hair would be if she got it cut so it could be healthy and grow longer. 

Well that seemed to work because yesterday this happened!


Before:

After:



When we got to the salon she climbed up in the chair and you could tell she was unsure of it all until the hair dresser turned the chair around and she got to see herself in the mirror. She smiled the entire time after that. She got a sucker for doing a good job and practically skipped out of the salon when she was finished! I asked her when she was done if she was happy and she said,"yes". I said,”See that wasn’t so bad was it? There was nothing to be scared of”. She said, “I guess I’m just a scared-y cat”.

Here's to many more "firsts"!



Tuesday, May 22, 2018

Testy Tuesdays

It's that time again. Just below are the pet peeves that are driving us crazy this week. Add your own in the comments, or ditto someone else. Commiserate with each other, blow off steam and go on your merry way.

Kylee: When I order a sweet tea and am expecting it to be sweet so I take a big drink only to find out it is most definitely not sweet!

Stephanie:   starting a diet...but also, only have three outfits to wear because you haven't started a diet. 

Jill:  When someone borrows your car and backs it into a pole.

Now it's your turn. What's bugging you?

Monday, May 21, 2018

"How did it get so late so soon?" - Dr. Seuss

   Where did today go? Where did this week go? Or this month? Or this year? Or the last 10?

  It's graduation time, and our church always gives an engraved Bible to the graduating seniors. As I was watching those high school seniors walk up to get their gift, I felt old. I remeber their kindergarten graduation. I remeber it because it was also my youngest brother's kindergarten graduation.

  The kindergarteners at our school always do a little skit/presentation and my youngest brother played a fox the year he graduated. It was so cute. He was also in nyquil because he was pretty sick that day. I remeber because it was hilarious to see him sitting, zoned out, until it was his turn to get up and do his part. He got up and performed like a champ and then went back to his seat and zoned right back on. Five year old's can be so cute. And then they grow up."Cute is for babies" as my daughter says. She doesn't like to be called cute because that's what you say to babies. Apparently, you can grow out of cute. Go figure.

  Anyways, the point of all of this. I remember being single and thinking life was dragging on soooo ooo slowly. Now, our 5 year wedding anniversary is coming up this week. Just over two years ago we started deputation with a 9 month old.... One 9 month old. Now we have a 3 year old, an almost 2 year old, and a 1 month old.
Some parts of deputation felt like they dragged on forever. Like the parts in the van. Those were very, very long. Yet, here we are with three months left till we leave for Brazil. Where did the past two years go?

  We're going to leave for Brazil in just three months. I'm sure some parts of our first term are going to seem like they are dragging on. Like language school. School never goes by quickly. But before we know it, that first term is going to be over and we'll be flying back here wondering where the past few years went.

  We have a lot going on in our lives, as most people do. I'm pretty sure that most of us, especially women, can say that we spend most our day just trying to survive and get through it. Now, I know that there will always be days like that, but I'm learning that I don't want every day to be like that. If you're always trying to just survive and get through, then you're missing everything along the way and you'll end up at your babies high-school graduation saying "how did it get so late so soon?" (Dr. Seuss)

Friday, May 18, 2018

The Last One

This Sunday night after the service we're having a reception for the high school graduates. It just so happens that our youngest son is included in that group. It's hard to believe that our last child is going to graduate from high school.

Each of the graduates have to set up a display table filled with things that are important to them. Photos, awards, sports equipment ... items that have made up their lives for the past eighteen years.

I mentioned a few items to Nick that I thought he might want to have on his table, and I told him he needed to go through our pictures and see which ones he would want displayed. This could so easily be a sad time for me as I face the last one growing up. It would be easy to dissolve into tears, but my kids don't let me do that easily.

For instance, Nick traveled with his dad this week up to his grandparents' house. He won't be back until Saturday night, so most of the items for his table at the reception are kind of up to me. I told him that if he had any pictures on his phone that he wanted on the display table, he needed to send them to me. Here are some of the ones he sent:









And there you have the many faces of Nick, including the one he photoshopped onto John Cena's body. I'll probably do more laughing than crying come Sunday.

Thanks, Nick.

Thursday, May 17, 2018

Happy Thoughts Thursday

So you've made it through half the week, but it's still not Friday yet. Sometimes by Thursday you need a little lift to make it to the weekend.

Our solution? Happy Thought Thursday. On Tuesdays you can drop a pet peeve or an irritation. On Thursdays, give us a praise, a thankfulness, or something that just makes you happy. Your contributions on Thursday can be deep and spiritual, such as thankfulness for your salvation, or as shallow as a cup of coffee or a good hair day.  Here are our happy thoughts for this week:

Stephanie: I sold three totes full fo old baby clothes. Now I have money to buy new baby clothes! 😁

Kylee: Girhadelli brownies

Jill: The sun was shining for two days in a row

So what about you? What makes you happy today?